The true focus of revolutionary change is never merely the oppressive situations that we seek to escape, but that piece of the oppressor which is planted deep within each of us, and which knows only the oppressors’ tactics, the oppressors’ relationships. -- Audre Lorde I am only an expert in myself. I have lived with pain since I was a child. Lots of pain. Pain from living at the intersection of utter disregard for humanity I have been re traumatized over and over again without much relief and expected to live a full and vibrant life without this trauma being addressed It is impossible for me to live this way. I have acknowledged my pain both privately and publicly. I will continue to do this. Other people in my life, both known to me casually and my friends, are also in pain. Sometimes, I have been the cause of that pain. I can acknowledge their pain. I can listen to them, hold space for them to name their pain without the need to name mine as a response.